This is another situation that I have ZERO tolerance for. I would also call all of the parents of the children that the PERV has been in contact with lately to inform them of his crime against your child and so that they can press charges if necessary to protect their own children. Parents should protect their children even if it is from another of their children. Your DH has to step up also in order protect his younger children from his deviant older son as well as protect the children of friends, family and the broader community. Once the police haul him off in cuffs I would not allow him back in to my home. He needs to be flagged as a sex offender for the rest of his life so other children will be protected from him. Sure, get him help and counseling but only in addition to what the government will provide for him as an inmate. He should spend the rest of his youth in juvenile hall where he can pay the price for his criminal behavior.
I need advise as to how to handle the situation.Ĭall the police immediately and have them haul the little PERV off to where he belongs. Also, how do we know that his cousins and our friends' children are safe around him. I cannot afford to have him psychologically messed up and traumatised. On the other hand, my sons safety comes first. I feel as if we would be feeding him to the wolves, cause he had to pick these things up in the area where he grew up. I'm not sure if it is the right thing to do. My husband decided he does not want him in the house and he has to go back to his mother. I feel sick in my stomach, I cannot look at this child, yet I feel very sorry for him and his mother. Luckily i got into the room just as he got into the bed. This boy took of my sons shorts while he was sleeping (and he is a deep sleeper) and got into bed with him stark naked. My 10 year old was very surprised to find his short was taken off. When I lifted the blankets, both of them were naked. My son was half asleep, but woke up because he also could not understand why my stepson is in his bed. When I asked him what he was doing there, he kept quiet and had a very funny expression on his face. I immediately felt like something was wrong. I heard him tossing and turning and when I turned around I saw my stepson was lying with him in the bed. He has been sleeping for about 3 hours then. Last night, I went into my 10 year old's room. Still we did not think that much about it. He played with the kids in one of the rooms and all of a sudden they came downstairs to show us the money he paid them.apparently they had to message him.we were so embarrassed and my husband flipped. Then, recently, we had friends over with children between 4 and 7 of age. He likes playing with little children, to the extend that we had to tell him to start socialising with his own age.Ī couple of months ago, my sister-in-law refused to send her 9 year old daughter to our place, apparently something happened with her and our son.I thought she was overreacting. Overall he is a nice child to have around. He acts like an 8 year old around us, but when he goes home to Durban, he is a teenager (judging from the messages on his phone). He lies a lot (master at it), is sometimes dilutional and does not show emotion. I have a 14 year old stepson who has been living with us from this year.although I see him as my own, he always make me feel uncomfortable cause I cannot read him. I am so distraught by the whole thing and simply dont know how to handle it.